Beginners Guide: Finding Your Style


Creating a working wardrobe is a huge passion of mine. Finding a personal style is the first step towards that goal. Style is a really a massive concept so in this post I focus more on the dressing side of style.

I love reading and watching other peoples content about this subject and I feel that there is always something new to learn, even if you already have found your style. If you want to spice things up a bit, this could also be useful to you.

So here is my four step beginners guide to finding your style!


Define your lifestyle


When you first start finding your own style, we need to step away from our wardrobe. Think about your week: how does it look like? What about your whole month? Where do you spent most of your time? At school, work or gym? Your personal style is in direct contact with your lifestyle. It’s important to invest in a wardrobe that serves you well according to what you do most of the time.

The math here is simple: the more you do something, the more you should have options in your wardrobe to match that activity. The more you can spend money on those pieces of clothing. It’s simple and easy way to start building your style from there. If you are a personal trainer, there is more sense for you to have closet full of cool gym clothes as oppose to a person that goes to the gym once a week. If you like to go out and dress extra nicely, take that in count when you start to define your personal style!

Analyze your wardrobe


After defining your lifestyle, we can move to your wardrobe. Browse through it: does it match your lifestyle? In many cases we tend to purchase things what we “would like to wear” but never really have the chance or courage to wear. In other cases the closet is full of gorgeous one piece items that doesn’t go together with anything else and therefore it’s left unused. Finding your style is all about getting that working wardrobe as I like to call it (used to call it a “perfect wardrobe” but there isn’t such thing as perfect so “working” in this context is good enough). It’s making your wardrobe work for your lifestyle. To make it easy and accessible as possible.

What type of clothing do you see the most and do you like it? As I mentioned before, there could be pieces that you really like but never wear. Then there may be some boring basics that you really don’t like but still wear ’cause they go with majority of your clothing. This is a scenario that should be avoided. When analyzing your wardrobe, doing the “yes”, “no” and “maybe” pile can be helpful, but that’s more useful when you are trying to declutter. Which is important but when finding your style may I suggest a similar but a slithy different approach:



  • make a “love pile” = items that you absolutely adore

  • make a “basic pile” = items that go with almost everything (like jeans or cardigans)

  • you are left with a “not really sure pile” = you don’t even know why you have those items in your wardrobe ?

The “basic pile” isn’t really the issue here: some things you just need in order to have a working wardrobe, like some good quality trousers or pair of stockings. But of course the goal here would be that everything in your wardrobe would be in the “love pile”.

With the “not really sure pile” you need to have some balls. Choose a day when you have energy and good vibe ’cause you may need to get rid of a lot of stuff. That’s the issue. We have so much “stuff” in our wardrobe that it clutters everything. We don’t really see what’s in our closets ’cause the “stuff” has taken control. If the piece of clothing doesn’t bring you joy just get rid of it. It’s definitely not helping you to find your style if you are keeping some old stuff hanging in your wardrobe that you really don’t even wanna wear.

Then take a look at your “love pile”. Now we get to the yummy part of analyzing your wardrobe. What type of clothing do you see? Look at them for a minute and then ask these following questions:

  • Do they go well together?
  • What type of pieces do you see the most?
  • What colors there are?
  • Are they pieces that you love but don’t know what to wear it with?
  • Following to the previous one: If you could pair any piece of clothing with that item, what would it be?


This is an imagination game and there are no limits! Finding your personal style is easier when you start with what you already have and like, instead of having absolutely nowhere to start. This pile will get you some idea of what your style could look like and with what items your style could develop on.

What vibe is similar to these items and can you perhaps name and label them? For example: bohemian, classic, 90’s, minimal, relaxed… What colors and fabrics do you tend to go with? The more specific you are with these labels, the more easier it is to find your style and use these terms and labels on my next point!


Get inspiration


Now you know your lifestyle and have analyzed your wardrobe. Got rid off stuff that doesn’t fit into your new style. You have looked at your “love pile” and found out that there are some similar vibes to them. What next?

Take those labels that you have managed to find and hit Google, Pinterest, Instagram and get inspiration. Don’t know what to wear with that 90’s statement dress? Someone somewhere I guarantee has paired it with something and put up a photo somewhere. If you don’t know the right hashtags for you, it can be hard to find inspiration. That’s why it’s so important to get specific words when describing those pieces of clothing in you own wardrobe that you love.

In every video or post about finding you style, this is a must have. For me this isn’t the biggest point but it’s still helpful. You do what works best for you! I prefer Instagram and occasionally I Pin something on my “style inspiration” Pinterest board. Just take a moment every time you see a photo of something that intrigues you: what do you like about it? The overall vibe? The cut of a dress? In this point it helps the more specific you can get. I still do that when ever I see something beautiful. Style is something that’s always evolving and therefore I also love to get new inspiration!


Shop consciously


You have emptied your wardrobe and found some inspiration on how you can style some items: remember that you have done a lot of work to get a crisp clean closet and for your own personal style, it’s better that you just bring items that spark joy (really kon mari ;D). If you want more details on shopping consciously go and check out my other post questions to ask before purchasing a new item!

But basically don’t bring anything new that doesn’t fit to your wardrobe or your style and doesn’t get you that “WOW” effect. Dressing up should be fun and not confusing but if you let your wardrobe to get cluttered again with “stuff” it’s easily back to square one…

Remember: you are what you wear

These points are guidelines to getting your personal style together. But realizing you are what you wear is important as well and that’s why I wanted to leave this point for you to ponder on later.

Finding your style ultimately comes down to this: what do you want? Want to be confident? Wear a suit. Want to be glamorous? Wear special pieces when ever you can! You can create the life you want by wearing the things that are in alignment with that vision. This is not rocket science!

The vibe you want to have is really at your fingertips. Be courageous 🙂 It’s not all about the pieces of clothing that you own. Of course it’s a part of that but the clothes should be an extension of who you are and who you want to be. Being fashionable is easy: you just need to have a lot of money to buy all the things that are on “trend” every  season. Being stylish is having a consistent own vision about what looks good on you and where you feel the most comfortable and confident in.



Jeans: Vero Moda

Blazer: EKYOG

Shoes: Nike

Shirt: Thrifted


I really hope that you found some new inspiration from this and if you have any other questions or maybe want to share some other tips: please leave them down below or hit me on Instagram or Facebook! I would really love to read your comments 🙂

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You are awesome!

Take Care ❤



Boost your confidence with clothes

all photos by @nelliylimalmi

How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.



There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 


Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 


Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 


Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.



Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil


Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3



Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE

5+1 ways to feel like you’re on vacation

It’s officially Fall y’all! At least in Finland it is…

For me this Summer was full of work and occasionally a couple of days off here and there. Sometimes it was hard to put aside all of the stress and work and just relax. Luckily I started to develop a system which helped me to get into my “vacation mood” even if it’s just for a 24 hours.

Now that the Summer has ended and most of us go back to school or work, here are my 5+1 tips on how to feel like you’re on vacation and get that relaxed mode on even when you are back to your Fall routines!

1. Be in your pajamas all day


Seriously like what’s stopping you? Nothing screams a day-off like hanging in your favorite pajamas all day. My personal go-to pajamas are surprise surprise: kaftans!

2. Make something yummy for breakfast


Breakfast: the start of the day. Why not make it a hint more interesting? If you eat the same kind of thing every morning, it’s a little luxury to have something little extra. Freshly squeezed orange juice OR chocolate coffee and cinnamon buns.

3. Pamper yourself

Whether it’s a simple footbath or 2 hour visit to the sauna, pampering yourself with something special is a must for having that vacation mood on. Oil cleansing method is also my favorite if I want to deep cleanse my skin!

4. Eat outside


This is something I will do if the weather allows! There is something unique about eating outside, since in Finland we cannot do that very often, even in the summer time. So every chance I got, I want to eat outside! Makes me feel like I’m on vacation plus the food tastes much better outside. Just dress up warmly if you live up here in the North. #winteriscoming

5. Read a fiction book


I tend to read two kinds of books at the same time: one on self-development and one fiction book. When I really want to feel relaxed I grab my favorite fiction book and read it all day everyday to get my brain in the right mode.

+1 chill out in nature

If you want to de-stress the old-fashioned way, go for a nice walk in nature. Feel the fresh air and if possible go without your phone or anything that might distract you from being in the present. Nothing says vacation like chilling in nature.


I hope you had an amazing Summer and wish you all the best for the upcoming Fall!


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Take Care ❤


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#FINNISHSUMMER | mini lookbook


It’s the end of the Summer and I’m about to go on a little vacation before the Fall season starts. Here’s a quick video featuring couple outfits I wore this Summer! If you liked it, remember to subscribe to my channel 😉




Jeans: Vero Moda

Shirt: Topshop

Cardigan: Noisy May

Necklace: Second Hand

Backbag: Monki

Shoes: Nike



Shorts: Second Hand

Shirt: American Apparel

Jacket: Monki

Necklace: Second Hand

Shoes: Nike

Sunnies: Ninja

Cardigan: Zara



instagram: @meerielviira

facebook: @toivonenmeeri


You are awesome

Take Care ❤


The Perfect Plan

I recently got rejected from a school that I had applied earlier this spring. For the fifth time.

But for the first time I got so close to getting in that I actually thought that this was it. That my perfect plan was coming true.

As I sat in front of the computer looking at a screen that didn’t have my name on it I realized that there is something called the perfect plan but it’s almost never meant to be like that. Without a hustle and without a “detour”. Without learning something first.



Not everything we do and create is gonna be perfect. Sometimes it’s good to accept that life is what it is. I have to admit that I’m still not very good at that…

Accepting the unfinished.

I always try to pursue perfection but mostly just to realize that it is unachievable and constant battle towards it just makes me unfulfilled.

We all have our flaws but when you get to know your flaws and weaknesses, it’s time to make them your strengths or at least learn from them. ‘Cause isn’t life a constant learning experience?

So I’m learning to love the process and letting myself go.


I’ll let you know a little secret: I love planning! Planning for future projects, trips etc. I love to plan so far a head and so precisely that I end up with so many goals that I can’t even fit into my notebook. Usually it breaks me when those goals don’t go as planned but now since I’m learning out from my perfectionism, it’s not the end of the world if something doesn’t go as I planned. I think that’s why I rose up so quickly from getting rejected ’cause if it’s meant to be, I’ll get there and if not, well: that’s life.

If everything we create isn’t always gonna be perfect, what’s point the of planning? What if you don’t plan at all? For the future or anything else. For your goals and for your dreams? Where would you be headed? Isn’t planning part of the journey? When you are thriving to go somewhere and you end up somewhere you didn’t thought you would. For example if I wouldn’t plan to go somewhere in my life, how could I ever realize the other option that didn’t even exist at first.

Would I have discovered it if I had just stayed still?

Don’t think so.



Skirt: Vero Moda

Shirt: Vero Moda

Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

instagram @meerielviira

So it’s good to have plans and vision but it’s also important not trying to force them to manifest precisely as you wrote it on your notebook or visualized it. That’s loving the process of life and going towards your dreams even if it doesn’t go as planned.


You are awesome!

Take Care<3