Boost your confidence with clothes

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How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.

 


 

There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 

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Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 

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Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 

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Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.

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OOTD

Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil

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Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

 

Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE

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5+1 ways to feel like you’re on vacation

It’s officially Fall y’all! At least in Finland it is…

For me this Summer was full of work and occasionally a couple of days off here and there. Sometimes it was hard to put aside all of the stress and work and just relax. Luckily I started to develop a system which helped me to get into my “vacation mood” even if it’s just for a 24 hours.

Now that the Summer has ended and most of us go back to school or work, here are my 5+1 tips on how to feel like you’re on vacation and get that relaxed mode on even when you are back to your Fall routines!

1. Be in your pajamas all day

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Seriously like what’s stopping you? Nothing screams a day-off like hanging in your favorite pajamas all day. My personal go-to pajamas are surprise surprise: kaftans!

2. Make something yummy for breakfast

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Breakfast: the start of the day. Why not make it a hint more interesting? If you eat the same kind of thing every morning, it’s a little luxury to have something little extra. Freshly squeezed orange juice OR chocolate coffee and cinnamon buns.

3. Pamper yourself

Whether it’s a simple footbath or 2 hour visit to the sauna, pampering yourself with something special is a must for having that vacation mood on. Oil cleansing method is also my favorite if I want to deep cleanse my skin!

4. Eat outside

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This is something I will do if the weather allows! There is something unique about eating outside, since in Finland we cannot do that very often, even in the summer time. So every chance I got, I want to eat outside! Makes me feel like I’m on vacation plus the food tastes much better outside. Just dress up warmly if you live up here in the North. #winteriscoming

5. Read a fiction book

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I tend to read two kinds of books at the same time: one on self-development and one fiction book. When I really want to feel relaxed I grab my favorite fiction book and read it all day everyday to get my brain in the right mode.

+1 chill out in nature

If you want to de-stress the old-fashioned way, go for a nice walk in nature. Feel the fresh air and if possible go without your phone or anything that might distract you from being in the present. Nothing says vacation like chilling in nature.

 

I hope you had an amazing Summer and wish you all the best for the upcoming Fall!

 

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You are awesome!

Take Care ❤

*Meeri

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The Premiere Week of Pippi

So… it’s THE WEEK. The week where it all comes together and 30.6. is the opening night of Pippi Longstockings on the Seven Seas. We have been working with this play for couple months now and it’s finally coming to a place where we can actually let people in to witness what we have created.

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Needles to say I’m super excited. There have been times of stress and tiredness that I almost lost control but I’m so proud of what we have all accomplished together as a group.

It has been a long journey. All started before we even had began rehearsing our play. We had gigs all over the place for promoting etc. The only thing that was on place was my hair and the songs we needed to perform. But it was fun! Hard at times…but fun!

Pippi is a very iconic character and I’ve almost ripped out my hair (not really ’cause it’s very expensive) that how I’m gonna make it come alive without copying the movie and having my own spin on it. This really is a role of a lifetime and not taking this for granted. I want to represent it as a new but still have to old recognisable vibes that the audience is waiting to see. But I’m confident that hard work will pay off and that the character will continue to grow during the show.

 

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Other thing that has been on our minds the whole time is our very own pool. Can you imagine we have built our own pool that we can actually use? That actually works and that is freaking amazing! Still freaking cold but awesome! The play is called Pippi Longstocking on the Seven Seas and we have the sea for reals!!!

Unfortunately I know that many of you will miss this play… and I get it. Joensuu is really far away from everything. For those who will come–> I’m not gonna hype this too much but I guarantee you will be happy that you came. This production has so much heart, sweat and tears that it’s gonna blow your mind that this isn’t all “professional” production.

 

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I think I need to head back to rehearsals but stay tuned for other blogposts about Pippi!

 

cover photo by: Antero Lehikoinen

 

You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

at the mouth of the river | STYLE

Hi guys!

I have safely landed to Joensuu and began my lovely summer job as Pippi Longstockings! That of course meant that I had to transform my hair quite a bit. After a while I’m getting used this bright orange! Love this new hair ❤ What do you guys think? 🙂

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Last post I wrote about how I’m longing for structure and luckily I can say that I’m getting there. Things are still a bit hectic and my body is a bit tired and stressed from all of this change and of course from the long wait caused by Uniarts. ‘Cause this is a personal blog and it’s no secret: I applied for one of hardest school to get in (TeaK) and now I’m waiting for the results to roll in tomorrow

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We’ve been busy rehearsing at Teatteri-Traktori and building our very own pool!!! So most of the time, I’m bear faced with just some random sweatpants on. On our days off, I’m making the most of it and dressing up a little. Still I manage to keep my look quite “sporty”!

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OOTD

Dress: H&M

Necklace: Second Hand

Fake Septum: Black Heart

Shoes: Nike Air

Cardigan: Noisy May

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Hoping not to catch a cold, I’m off for rehearsals!

You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

How sobriety has changed me

It’s story time once again! Before you even read this post, I want to clarify: I’m not judging anyone.

Most people I mention in this post are my friends and I have nothing against them or their own personal choices. In this post, I’m just sharing my thoughts about me being sober at a party and how sobriety has overall changed the way a think about alcohol.

 

A while ago I was at my friend’s house-warming party. It was nice and relaxed with just few friends filling up the little 30 square feet apartment. As a Finnish party, there was alcohol involved. If you have read my other post, you know I’ve touched the topic about me not drinking anymore. Which is really huge ’cause I used to drink a lot… I’m gonna do a whole other post about all the benefits when I’ve really discovered all the aspects of being without alcohol. But now, since being over 7 month sober, I think could share some thoughts about it.

But back to the party: I wasn’t supposed to be the only one sober. Another friend was on antibiotics and thought that she couldn’t drink either. Cutting the story short, she did drink eventually, so I was left alone. Nothing odd about that and from the beginning, I was in that mind-set of being the only one without alcohol.

So as people got drunk or tipsy, it was interesting to see how people started to change a bit. I’ve been out partying before without alcohol but this time I really observed how people started to react to things and talking with one another. My friends and some new buddies I met there for the first time, were really in good shape. Not in that teenage “I really don’t know what’s going on”- vibe . But even though their words didn’t stumble and nobody threw up, there was something weird going down…

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The pushing of alcohol. Social pressure is the key why people get drunk or even start drinking in the first place. I don’t think we can argue long about that. First it was fun joke that everyone needed to take a shot as a welcome toast but one of my friend said that she didn’t like the taste. It made her sick to her stomach. Really not the alcohol but the taste. But they pushed and pushed her. Why?

She did take the shot and went straight to the bathroom. Complained that she was feeling bad. Why did they push her? Why did she drank it? I didn’t quite understand.

Same goes for that other friend who wasn’t going to drink at all. But the pressure of others made her do it. If I would ask her now, she’d probably say that she did for herself and not for other people. I’d believe her. Who would want to stay sober at a party?

 

The other thing I noticed that people got upset. I feel that everything goes under your skin when you drink. At least I know from my own experience that when I drank, I would get emotional, violent and hurt over little things. Like usually when I go out, people comment on my appearance or other things and my friends get really protective over me. I find it really sweet but I can sense the need for drama in their eyes. They want to have a fight. They want to feel that they are right and others are wrong. When I’m sober, I feel compassion for the person who comes to say something to me. When before I could just push people away and even yell VERY nasty things to them. When sober, I really don’t see why people get so mad and angry.

I still need to be honest now. Going to a bar that you don’t like when you are sober–> SUCKS! Sorry to break it down to you but I’ve had some good nights sober but mostly, it is just waste of time… And that’s the part where it gets hard to spend time with our friends if the only thing you do is drink and go out.

Couple years ago, clubbing was the thing. Being a little tipsy was a normal state of being. It was awesome to dance the night away with your friends and hunt for some random guy. When I wasn’t partying, all I could remember was the time when I was feeling myself in the bar and as a result wanted to go out again and again. On the dance floor with my best friends not seeing clearly.

 

Now, I see the overall picture. That moment a described lasts for 5 minutes max. The other part of the night is stumbling with talking and walking. Getting lost in the bar. Feeling lonely ’cause your friend went to the bathroom or left you alone to dry hump someone. Upset ’cause the guy doesn’t come at your place. The pieces of glass ruining your shoes and the beer that people spill on your dress. The morning after when you feel like shit.

The morning after the house-warming party, my friend suddenly said: Why couldn’t I do like Meeri and still go to the bar and not drink? And I needed to be honest with her and I said that it takes a lot a courage and patience to go out without drinking. Nobody said it was easy. But when you are drunk, you don’t notice these little things and how miserable place a bar or a club can be. At least in Finland. People want to escape something. Want to find something. But which they will never lose or find in there.

I know ’cause I’ve searched for something. I’ve wanted to escape something. But the answer isn’t there.

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Being sober has changed me to think that there are more in life than loosing my sense of being. More to a Friday night than getting high. I’ve discovered what I really like and enjoy and not just going on what we think is “normal behaviour”. I’ve learned that being sober is not lame but quite the opposite.

I want to thank the friends in my life who have shown me an example that there is a way of having fun that doesn’t involve alcohol or drugs. I’m so grateful that I have met these people!

In Finland, unfortunately alcohol is a normalized drug. We all know that it’s not healthy for us. If someone still believes those old articles which say that one glass of red wine = one hour in the gym, could just go back to the elementary school ’cause they’ve missed a very important class called: common sense.

I think we need to stop poisoning ourselves and like a said in my post about ethical lifestyle, this isn’t “do everything at once” but more of a “do something now”. Not saying everyone should be sober and I tend to avoid the term “absolutist” ’cause if I want to have a glass of wine, I can have it. Like a can have a bag of chips or a joint. But most likely, I’m not going to ’cause I know what’s best for me. But we are not perfect and missteps are a part of this journey called life.

 

Although I mentioned my own dear friends, I’m not judging anybody. If you want to drink, you drink. We live in a privileged world where there are millions of possibilities and freedom to choose the life you want. So if drinking is what you want to do, I’m not gonna hunt you down. I know how you feel ’cause I’ve been the worst case scenario. I’m just gonna leave you with this: if you think drinking is freedom, you are trapped in an invisible prison.

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Anyway, I really did have some fun in the house-warming party but it came even clearer to me that drinking is not for me. But having fun with my friends is! I’m so grateful that I have friends in my life who understand me and that we have so much more in our relationships than drinking.

 

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You are awesome!

Take Care ❤

*Meeri