Beginners Guide: Finding Your Style

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Creating a working wardrobe is a huge passion of mine. Finding a personal style is the first step towards that goal. Style is a really a massive concept so in this post I focus more on the dressing side of style.

I love reading and watching other peoples content about this subject and I feel that there is always something new to learn, even if you already have found your style. If you want to spice things up a bit, this could also be useful to you.

So here is my four step beginners guide to finding your style!


 

Define your lifestyle

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When you first start finding your own style, we need to step away from our wardrobe. Think about your week: how does it look like? What about your whole month? Where do you spent most of your time? At school, work or gym? Your personal style is in direct contact with your lifestyle. It’s important to invest in a wardrobe that serves you well according to what you do most of the time.

The math here is simple: the more you do something, the more you should have options in your wardrobe to match that activity. The more you can spend money on those pieces of clothing. It’s simple and easy way to start building your style from there. If you are a personal trainer, there is more sense for you to have closet full of cool gym clothes as oppose to a person that goes to the gym once a week. If you like to go out and dress extra nicely, take that in count when you start to define your personal style!

Analyze your wardrobe

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After defining your lifestyle, we can move to your wardrobe. Browse through it: does it match your lifestyle? In many cases we tend to purchase things what we “would like to wear” but never really have the chance or courage to wear. In other cases the closet is full of gorgeous one piece items that doesn’t go together with anything else and therefore it’s left unused. Finding your style is all about getting that working wardrobe as I like to call it (used to call it a “perfect wardrobe” but there isn’t such thing as perfect so “working” in this context is good enough). It’s making your wardrobe work for your lifestyle. To make it easy and accessible as possible.

What type of clothing do you see the most and do you like it? As I mentioned before, there could be pieces that you really like but never wear. Then there may be some boring basics that you really don’t like but still wear ’cause they go with majority of your clothing. This is a scenario that should be avoided. When analyzing your wardrobe, doing the “yes”, “no” and “maybe” pile can be helpful, but that’s more useful when you are trying to declutter. Which is important but when finding your style may I suggest a similar but a slithy different approach:

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  • make a “love pile” = items that you absolutely adore

  • make a “basic pile” = items that go with almost everything (like jeans or cardigans)

  • you are left with a “not really sure pile” = you don’t even know why you have those items in your wardrobe ?

The “basic pile” isn’t really the issue here: some things you just need in order to have a working wardrobe, like some good quality trousers or pair of stockings. But of course the goal here would be that everything in your wardrobe would be in the “love pile”.

With the “not really sure pile” you need to have some balls. Choose a day when you have energy and good vibe ’cause you may need to get rid of a lot of stuff. That’s the issue. We have so much “stuff” in our wardrobe that it clutters everything. We don’t really see what’s in our closets ’cause the “stuff” has taken control. If the piece of clothing doesn’t bring you joy just get rid of it. It’s definitely not helping you to find your style if you are keeping some old stuff hanging in your wardrobe that you really don’t even wanna wear.

Then take a look at your “love pile”. Now we get to the yummy part of analyzing your wardrobe. What type of clothing do you see? Look at them for a minute and then ask these following questions:

  • Do they go well together?
  • What type of pieces do you see the most?
  • What colors there are?
  • Are they pieces that you love but don’t know what to wear it with?
  • Following to the previous one: If you could pair any piece of clothing with that item, what would it be?

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This is an imagination game and there are no limits! Finding your personal style is easier when you start with what you already have and like, instead of having absolutely nowhere to start. This pile will get you some idea of what your style could look like and with what items your style could develop on.

What vibe is similar to these items and can you perhaps name and label them? For example: bohemian, classic, 90’s, minimal, relaxed… What colors and fabrics do you tend to go with? The more specific you are with these labels, the more easier it is to find your style and use these terms and labels on my next point!

 

Get inspiration

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Now you know your lifestyle and have analyzed your wardrobe. Got rid off stuff that doesn’t fit into your new style. You have looked at your “love pile” and found out that there are some similar vibes to them. What next?

Take those labels that you have managed to find and hit Google, Pinterest, Instagram and get inspiration. Don’t know what to wear with that 90’s statement dress? Someone somewhere I guarantee has paired it with something and put up a photo somewhere. If you don’t know the right hashtags for you, it can be hard to find inspiration. That’s why it’s so important to get specific words when describing those pieces of clothing in you own wardrobe that you love.

In every video or post about finding you style, this is a must have. For me this isn’t the biggest point but it’s still helpful. You do what works best for you! I prefer Instagram and occasionally I Pin something on my “style inspiration” Pinterest board. Just take a moment every time you see a photo of something that intrigues you: what do you like about it? The overall vibe? The cut of a dress? In this point it helps the more specific you can get. I still do that when ever I see something beautiful. Style is something that’s always evolving and therefore I also love to get new inspiration!

 

Shop consciously

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You have emptied your wardrobe and found some inspiration on how you can style some items: remember that you have done a lot of work to get a crisp clean closet and for your own personal style, it’s better that you just bring items that spark joy (really kon mari ;D). If you want more details on shopping consciously go and check out my other post questions to ask before purchasing a new item!

But basically don’t bring anything new that doesn’t fit to your wardrobe or your style and doesn’t get you that “WOW” effect. Dressing up should be fun and not confusing but if you let your wardrobe to get cluttered again with “stuff” it’s easily back to square one…

Remember: you are what you wear

These points are guidelines to getting your personal style together. But realizing you are what you wear is important as well and that’s why I wanted to leave this point for you to ponder on later.

Finding your style ultimately comes down to this: what do you want? Want to be confident? Wear a suit. Want to be glamorous? Wear special pieces when ever you can! You can create the life you want by wearing the things that are in alignment with that vision. This is not rocket science!

The vibe you want to have is really at your fingertips. Be courageous 🙂 It’s not all about the pieces of clothing that you own. Of course it’s a part of that but the clothes should be an extension of who you are and who you want to be. Being fashionable is easy: you just need to have a lot of money to buy all the things that are on “trend” every  season. Being stylish is having a consistent own vision about what looks good on you and where you feel the most comfortable and confident in.

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OOTD

Jeans: Vero Moda

Blazer: EKYOG

Shoes: Nike

Shirt: Thrifted

 

I really hope that you found some new inspiration from this and if you have any other questions or maybe want to share some other tips: please leave them down below or hit me on Instagram or Facebook! I would really love to read your comments 🙂

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You are awesome!

Take Care ❤

*Meeri

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Boost your confidence with clothes

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How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.

 


 

There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 

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Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 

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Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 

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Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.

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OOTD

Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil

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Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

 

Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

HONEST ALERT: I don’t feel beautiful ALL the time. Who does? I bet Lady Gaga has those days too when she don’t feel like her A game…

Guess it’s kind of old to say “we all sometimes feel the pressure to look a certain way or are not happy the way we are feeling about our appearance because of the media etc.” But I’m still writing it down here ’cause it’s still the unfortunate reality for many of us. We maybe want to please others or just ourselves. I’ve noticed that when it comes to confidence and feeling beautiful I’m really my own worst enemy.

Being beautiful is most of all a feeling. 

Having confidence and feeling beautiful really go hand-in-hand. This is why my list contains a lot of handy tips to also build up your confidence. Even though you may have a great self-esteem it’s really good to remind yourself once in a while about how important these little things are. Also bear in mind that these are just my own tips for myself and all of these may not work for you but I’m sharing these ’cause it just might help you today.

Before getting to my tips on how I feel beautiful I’d like to share the most basic things that I  personally need before any of my other tips would even begin to work!

  • Getting enough sleep
  • Regural exercicing
  • Drinking lots of water
  • Eating healthy

 

Now on to the tips:

 

1. Smile and give yourself compliments

It’s so weird how easy it is to give someone else a compliment but not being able to say the same thing to yourself. This tip can work however you want it to and you can modify it to your liking. You can use a mirror or just go to a quiet place where you are not being disturbed. Then just smile. It’s really that simple. Smile to yourself and either out loud or in your mind give yourself compliments or if it seems hard to find multiple things just start with one. It can be anything from “My outfit is really on point today” to just simply “I’m beautiful”. Say anything that needs the most attention.

 

2. Be without makeup 

The power of makeup is real. It has the power to change our appearance, enhance our features or even create a piece of art. It also has the power of making you feel less beautiful when you are not wearing it. If this is the case then I suggest that you stop wearing makeup for awhile. Sometimes after a period of wearing a lot of makeup I wash my face and don’t feel as beautiful as the second before I washed my face. ‘Cause I got used to seeing my face full glam on and when I washed my face it didn’t look “normal” and so I felt less beautiful. But when I tried to be without makeup for a week or so I got used to seeing myself without makeup and therefore the “normal” got back to where it should be.

 

3. Dress up

Same as makeup, clothing has a significant impact on how we feel about ourselves and how others perceive us. Let’s say I’ve worn baggy pants and some old sweatshirt for days in a row ( based on true events ) I’m gonna feel like the clothes I’m wearing: kinda worn out and baggy. Don’t get me wrong I love comfortable clothing but if I want to boost my confidence and feel like the best version of me I’m not going to wear that combination for long period of time. Putting on a sharp blazer or getting my favorite dress on is kind of telling myself that I’m worthy of looking my best at all times.

I think there is no such thing as overdressing.

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4. Dance

This is probably my favorite tip! I love to dance and even though I don’t go to classes anymore like I used to I still dance almost everyday. This is almost like the basic exercise stuff I shared in the beginning of this post but it’s still something extra. This takes me about 5-30 minutes or as long as I like! I put on some music that makes me feel happy or sexy and then I just jam. When those famous endorphins start to hit my brain and I brake a sweat I’ll feel totally different about myself than before I started. If you haven’t tried this out I highly recommend.

 

5. Try something different

Seriously. Please. Just do it. It’s no surprise that when I’ve been wearing the same clothes and done my makeup with the same routine over and over again, I’m gonna feel bored. But when I try something different it changes everything. It’s exciting and it makes me look at myself in a different perspective. And if the different didn’t work I can always go back. I did this all the time in secondary school! I remember someone really came up to me and said “Meeri could you just please make up your mind about your style?” ‘Cause I was experimenting with my clothing and where I felt the most beautiful in. Each day was different so obviously the same things and style didn’t work everyday.

I think we tend to feel more beautiful when there is something new and exciting on us. This can apply to anything you want. Break up the routines and try something new. Like a fresh haircut or a piece of jewelry that you haven’t tried ( like I bought fake septum ). The options are infinite.

 

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I’m just gonna leave it there.

 

 

 

Thanks for reading.

You are awesome!

*Meeri