Boost your confidence with clothes

all photos by @nelliylimalmi

How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.



There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 


Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 


Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 


Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.



Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil


Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3



Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE


What is an ethical lifestyle?

You may have noticed that my blog (and instagram etc.) is more and more focused on ethicality and ethical living. But even the rising trend of veganism and this type of lifestyle, there are still some misconceptions about what an ethical lifestyle is…

ethical is really the new black! photo by @inthesoulshine from instagram


It’s different for everyone

Keep in mind that there are as many definitions as there is people practicing this way of living.

Wikipedia: Ethical living is the philosophy of making decisions for daily life which take into account ethics and moral values, particularly with regard to consumerism, sustainability, environmentalism, wildlife and animal welfare. At present it is largely a personal choice, and not an organized social movement.


No matter if the question is about veganism, minimalism or anything else, you make your own version of it. Many don’t like the use of “ism” behind those words and I personally know people who hate everything “ism” involved. I think that people are just stuck with some negative words like nazism and fascism and therefore think that everything kinda sounding like those words are the same. Sometimes it’s helpful to have labels and boxes where you can scoop out the information that you need on a topic and then move on. It’s also clarifying for other people to know what you are all about. But you don’t have to tattoo it onto your forehead…if you don’t want to. So, what does ‘ethical living’ really mean? This term is often used to simply mean ‘living your own life in a way that is considerate towards the wider world beyond you’. In this context, the wider world includes other people, animals and the environment.


Things and ideas that bring us and to our surroundings joy, happiness and peace are good whether or not there is an “ism” behind it. This is not a cult. This is not an exclusive gang. This is just the way I want to live in order to bring peace into my life and into the world I live in.


realize that this is a big journey that starts with just one step

It’s a journey

Yes, that’s correct. I’m on a journey and I don’t need to require myself to be 100% ready at this or at anything. Nobody is perfect nor will ever be.

For example there is certain percent of nuclear power heating up my stove at my parents house where I live at the moment. Can I make a difference about what type of electricity comes to our house? Unfortunately not. I could just start to eat a raw vegan diet that doesn’t require a heating process but in Finland and for me as an unemployed, that is not sustainable. So I can go raw or wait until I move into my own house and have the chance to really make a decision about my own electricity.

Sadly some people have a problem with making your life sustainable for you. “So you allow nuclear power but cry for the dairy cows. How can you say that you’re ethical when you are just choosing what type of ethical things you do? That’s hypocrisy and labeling yourself as a better person than everyone else. You are just being passive!”

*deep breath*

Not everyone want or can go to live on deserted island with no electricity.

Not everyone can go and save all the starving African children.

And fiy, living a more ethical life is not passive.

It’s extremely active. The effort of every time I go outside, check my instagram or even turn on TV (which I don’t do very often). Every time I need to be conscious about who is trying to sell me, what and in what cause? What ideas these mainly huge corporations are trying to plant in my head? That I need something ’cause I’m not good enough? That it’s okay the slaughter innocent beings for my appetite? Because bacon tho’ ??

Being conscious and living a more ethical lifestyle is the least we can do, living in a first-world country where we vote with our money for the reality we want to see.

But it’s also realizing that you don’t have and cannot save everyone at once. Many people have the dissolution that you would have to do everything once in order to live more ethically. And as a result, people don’t even start ’cause they think it’s too hard. Guys, this is not true. Allow yourself to go on to this journey. If you are new to this whole idea, don’t freak out that the world is a mess and you cannot change anything. We’ve all been there and it feels horrible. But the shame and quilt from living in a privileged world is still not helping anyone… Not you, not the fast fashion slaves and not the dairy cows. Open your eyes and take action.

plant-based diet

My definition

At the moment in life I can be charge at least these things: what I eat, what I wear and what I buy. So here is my short definition of what an ethical lifestyle holds for me:

  • A plant-based diet is the obvious choice: nothing is more sustainable in the world. If you want proof go and watch Cowspicary on Netflix! Harming other beings and this planet is a very un-ethical way of living. Being a vegan is really a no-brainer.


  • Not buying from fast fashion brands: the fashion industry is one of the most polluting industries in the world. We always want the newest version of everything and don’t think about the origin of the garment. In my other blogpost I shared some handy questions whether or not you should buy a certain item, so if you are having problem with impulse shopping, I highly suggest you read that. But hail thrift shops, vintage and trashion!


  • Always keeping in mind the origin: Every item we purchase has a story. That story can be sad and scary or relatively okay. Making a habit of buying fair trade, organic and local when ever I can is a way of consuming I want to continue.


  • Learning all the time: It’s not about buying the latest fair trade coffee or just being “vegan” for the sake that it’s popular atm. This is about learning continuously about new ways of doing something ethically. Keeping your mind open for new ideas and exposures ’cause nothing is like it seems. Living ethically is more about the mindset not the shopping list.


Now it’s up to you

I have laid out my thoughts on what an ethical lifestyle holds for me. A way of living that bring peace and joy for me and for others. Now it’s up to you to define it to yourself. Some things that I hold valuable may not be so relevant in your life. But I encourage you to ask yourself about your values: what type of world do you want to live in? How can you make an impact to really make this world a better place?


Thank you for reading and of course if you have any comments please leave them down below. I would love to hear your thoughts!

You are awesome!

Take Care ❤




If you want further reading / watching :

Wearing clothes from sweatshops? | STYLE

Hi Guys!

Hellurei! Skrollaa alas suomenkielistä versiota varten 😉 


It is so weird to shoot outfit photos in the countryside ’cause you automatically feel the contrast between the setting and the style you are wearing. But I think it’s funny!

I’m getting this interesting vibe that my everyday outfits and my so called party outfits are meant to be quite similar. Always dress your best is a quote I still find accurate. But sometimes even the “not so glamorous” styles fit nicely to a housewarming party for example. It’s the feeling that you are comfortable and yet feel beautiful.

Sometimes earlier this year when I wore something from H&M or some other huge clothing store, I didn’t feel comfortable in it. And as a result I didn’t feel so beautiful. Now that I’m a vegan I’m also strongly against sweatshops and child labor. I felt so guilty for a long period of time and sometimes I still do for owning these pieces of clothing.

But I needed and need to be gentle to myself.


Shirt: Pull&Bear

Trousers: Vero Moda

Necklace: Cubus

Sleeveless Trench: Vero Moda

Shoes: Vagabond


It’s not sustainable (nor possible) that I would throw away all of my clothes that I’ve bought from these companies and buy new ones to replace them. I understand now that it’s an on going process to make my wardrobe totally cruelty free. And even that term is debatable ’cause it means something different to each of us. But cruelty free is where I’m headed and I’m not contributing to those brands that use sweatshops anymore!

I realize now what it takes to buy a cheap shirt from a big store from your nearest mall. There is a reason why I didn’t use know ’cause to be honest we all do KNOW why some the clothes we buy are so cheap. Majority just don’t see the bigger picture. And I was part of that majority and that’s the reason for my guilt.

So that being said I’m kind of getting my disclaimer out there that if you see me post these outfit posts ( ’cause I still like to make them ❤ ) with all these brands, you will know the story behind it. That all of these clothes or accessories have been purchased before my journey to veganism began.


If you would like to know more, here’s some good links for you to check out:

What the F**ck is Ethical Fashion?

The True Cost Documentary

11 Of Your Favorite Fashion Brands That Use Sweatshop Labor


If somebody didn’t tell you today: You are wonderful and unique!

Take Care<3



On todella outoa kuvata asukuvia maalla, koska heti tuntee sen kontrastin mikä asun ja maiseman välillä syntyy. Mutta minusta se on ihan hauskaa!

Viime aikoina on tullut selkeämmäksi se, että haluan omien jokapäiväisten asujen ja ns. juhla asujen välillä olevan vain pieni ero. Pukeudu aina parhaasi mukaan on vieläkin motto, johon uskon vahvasti. Joskus kuitenkin käy niin, että se ei-niin-glamour asu onkin se paras millä voi mennä vaikka kaverin tupareihin. On kyse mukavuudesta ja siitä, että tuntee olonsa kauniiksi.

Aiemmin tänä vuonna, kun olen pitänyt jotain vaatetta esimerkiksi H&M:stä tai jostain muusta isosta vaatekaupasta, en ole tuntenut oloani niin mukavaksi. Sen seurauksena en myöskään tuntenut itseäni niin kauniiksi. Nyt kun olen vegaani, olen myös erittäin vahvasti lapsityövoimaa ja “sweatshops” eli hikipajoja vastaan. Tunsin oloni niin pitkään syylliseksi ja välillä vieläkin, kun pidän joitain näitä artikkeleja päälläni.

Mutta minun täytyi ja täytyy olla itselleni armollinen.

Ei ole järkevää, että heitän nyt kaikki vaatteeni pois, jotka olen ostanut näistä hieman hämäristä kaupoista ja ostan korvaan ne heti uusilla. Tajuan nyt, että täysin julmuudesta vapaa (#crueltyfree) on jatkuva ja pitkä prosessi. Toki myös tätä termiä cruelty free voidaan vääntää ja kaikille se tarkoittaa hieman eri asiaa käytännössä. Mutta sitä kohden olen menossa ja en enää tue rahoillani niitä vaateketjuja, jotka käyttävät näitä hikipajoja.

Ymmärrän nyt mitä tarkoittaa ostaa halpa paita joltain isolta vaateketjulta lähimmästä ostoskeskuksesta. On myös järkevä syy siihen, miksi en käyttänyt sanaa tiedän, koska ollakseni rehellinen, me kaikki kyllä TIEDETÄÄN miksi jotkut vaatteet ovat niin halpoja. Suurin osa ei vaan näe tätä isompaa kokonaisuutta. Ja minä olin osa tuota enemmistöä ja tämä asia on lähde syyllisyyteeni.

Jatkan kyllä näiden asupostauksien kirjoittamista ( koska nautin näiden tekemisestä ❤ ), joissa enemmän tai vähemmän saattaa näkyä näitä isoja vaateketjuja. Mutta kun sain tämän asian pois sydämeltäni, niin nyt tekin tiedätte tarinan näiden vaatteiden takana ja sen, että kaikki on ostettu ennen kuin aloitin veganismin.

Jos haluaisit tietää lisää, tässä muutama hyvä linkki, joka kannattaa katsoa:

What the F**ck is Ethical Fashion?

The True Cost Documentary

11 Of Your Favorite Fashion Brands That Use Sweatshop Labor


Jos joku ei vielä sinulle tänään sanonut: Olet ihana ja ainutlaatuinen!