Boost your confidence with clothes

all photos by @nelliylimalmi

How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.



There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 


Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 


Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 


Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.



Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil


Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3



Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE


#FINNISHSUMMER | mini lookbook


It’s the end of the Summer and I’m about to go on a little vacation before the Fall season starts. Here’s a quick video featuring couple outfits I wore this Summer! If you liked it, remember to subscribe to my channel 😉




Jeans: Vero Moda

Shirt: Topshop

Cardigan: Noisy May

Necklace: Second Hand

Backbag: Monki

Shoes: Nike



Shorts: Second Hand

Shirt: American Apparel

Jacket: Monki

Necklace: Second Hand

Shoes: Nike

Sunnies: Ninja

Cardigan: Zara



instagram: @meerielviira

facebook: @toivonenmeeri


You are awesome

Take Care ❤


The Perfect Plan

I recently got rejected from a school that I had applied earlier this spring. For the fifth time.

But for the first time I got so close to getting in that I actually thought that this was it. That my perfect plan was coming true.

As I sat in front of the computer looking at a screen that didn’t have my name on it I realized that there is something called the perfect plan but it’s almost never meant to be like that. Without a hustle and without a “detour”. Without learning something first.



Not everything we do and create is gonna be perfect. Sometimes it’s good to accept that life is what it is. I have to admit that I’m still not very good at that…

Accepting the unfinished.

I always try to pursue perfection but mostly just to realize that it is unachievable and constant battle towards it just makes me unfulfilled.

We all have our flaws but when you get to know your flaws and weaknesses, it’s time to make them your strengths or at least learn from them. ‘Cause isn’t life a constant learning experience?

So I’m learning to love the process and letting myself go.


I’ll let you know a little secret: I love planning! Planning for future projects, trips etc. I love to plan so far a head and so precisely that I end up with so many goals that I can’t even fit into my notebook. Usually it breaks me when those goals don’t go as planned but now since I’m learning out from my perfectionism, it’s not the end of the world if something doesn’t go as I planned. I think that’s why I rose up so quickly from getting rejected ’cause if it’s meant to be, I’ll get there and if not, well: that’s life.

If everything we create isn’t always gonna be perfect, what’s point the of planning? What if you don’t plan at all? For the future or anything else. For your goals and for your dreams? Where would you be headed? Isn’t planning part of the journey? When you are thriving to go somewhere and you end up somewhere you didn’t thought you would. For example if I wouldn’t plan to go somewhere in my life, how could I ever realize the other option that didn’t even exist at first.

Would I have discovered it if I had just stayed still?

Don’t think so.



Skirt: Vero Moda

Shirt: Vero Moda

Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

instagram @meerielviira

So it’s good to have plans and vision but it’s also important not trying to force them to manifest precisely as you wrote it on your notebook or visualized it. That’s loving the process of life and going towards your dreams even if it doesn’t go as planned.


You are awesome!

Take Care<3


at the mouth of the river | STYLE

Hi guys!

I have safely landed to Joensuu and began my lovely summer job as Pippi Longstockings! That of course meant that I had to transform my hair quite a bit. After a while I’m getting used this bright orange! Love this new hair ❤ What do you guys think? 🙂


Last post I wrote about how I’m longing for structure and luckily I can say that I’m getting there. Things are still a bit hectic and my body is a bit tired and stressed from all of this change and of course from the long wait caused by Uniarts. ‘Cause this is a personal blog and it’s no secret: I applied for one of hardest school to get in (TeaK) and now I’m waiting for the results to roll in tomorrow


We’ve been busy rehearsing at Teatteri-Traktori and building our very own pool!!! So most of the time, I’m bear faced with just some random sweatpants on. On our days off, I’m making the most of it and dressing up a little. Still I manage to keep my look quite “sporty”!



Dress: H&M

Necklace: Second Hand

Fake Septum: Black Heart

Shoes: Nike Air

Cardigan: Noisy May

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Hoping not to catch a cold, I’m off for rehearsals!

You are awesome!

Take Care<3


Waiting for Change

Hi guys!

How are you doing? I’m doing quite okay. If you follow me on instagram, you know that lately I’ve been struggling with unemployment and all that jazz…

I’m longing for structure. Been learning new things about myself and about life in general but somehow I feel stuck. I’m ready for a change.

So welcome Spring!

all photos by the great Nelli Yli-Malmi

Spring has never been my favorite season (I get allergy) and although it’s nice to see the nature blooming again, I’m more of a Summer and Fall kinda person.

And this Spring has been a lot of waiting. Waiting for the snowstorm to pass, waiting for the warmth, waiting to see my love, waiting for new things to come, waiting for change…

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There are ideas stuck in my head. Knowledge yet to put into action. I’m on the edge. I can feel it. But this WAITING is driving me insane. Playing with time when I know it’s just an illusion. I need to stop, but how? I need to start, but how?

Loosing my grip was a topic that I touched in my The Power of Habits post and I feel it’s still lurking in my everyday life… Next week I’m moving to Joensuu. I’m finally gonna pick up my working habits again and I couldn’t be more excited. Maybe I just need to wait a bit longer.

Or maybe all this is about learning to enjoy the moment?

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Skirt: Vero Moda

Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

Shirt: Vero Moda

Necklace: Efva Attling


A little different type of post today but I still hope you liked it. This is after all a personal blog and by no means I’m trying to make the impression that I’m all perfect. Nobody is!

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