Boost your confidence with clothes

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How to feel more confident by using clothes and accessories?  

Self-esteem and confidence isn’t something you can gain outside of yourself but you can enhance those features that make you feel more comfortable in your own skin or in this case in what you’re wearing. I’ve mentioned in my previous post How to feel beautiful that the trick isn’t ”looking”  pretty, it’s really the feeling that you can create from within that makes you feel and seem like a very confident person.

 


 

There are days when we feel more put together and have a great view of ourself and our lives and sometimes we don’t. Those days it can get tricky to feel awesome and those negative thoughts can affect how we perceive ourselves.

Since the very beginning, I’ve managed to express myself with clothes and feel comfy and confident, even though I’m having a day or multiple days when I’m really not feeling it. It’s almost “cheating ” your brain into thinking that you are having an amazing day when you feel confident in what you are wearing. We should definitely not look away from the power that clothes have on us and how we can use that for our advantage. 

These are my tips on how to boost your confidence by using clothes, accessories and really enhancing your personal style. 

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Something special

I have that item in my wardrobe that is that tiny bit extra special. I think we all have that item or at least we should ( or then we would just have to have ALL are clothes and accessories like that but that’s another post ). Whatever that extra special item is: get that on! This is the first and easiest way to boost your confidence in a heart beat! 

Structure and statement

Personally I feel more confident if I’m wearing something with sharp cut lines or structure. In my opinion it creates a statement that’s easy to carry. For example if you are always wearing the same cardigan that isn’t the best quality and you don’t feel so good in that, eventually you are gonna feel like that cardigan. Not the best quality and a little shaggy and so on… Remember that you are what you wear. 

I have a simple rule that works most of the time: if you are wearing something slouchy on bottom, wear something tight or sharp on top and vice versa. It creates a nice balance between those textures and feels. It also gives that message like “Hey, I’m here!” which straight up makes you feel more confident. 

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Get comfy

Like I said previously: don’t wear that same old thing over and over again, that isn’t really your style and makes you feel drowsy, ’cause eventually you will feel like that piece of clothing. It’s important to understand that confidence comes from a place of comfort. If you are not comfortable, how can you be confident? This means that those stiletto heels all day long may first feel like a great idea but after a while it’ll get your comfort level down.

I have to confess that I’m so in love with this sporty trend that’s been going on ( thank the universe ) ’cause sporty can also mean comfy. I love those running pants and leggings that can be used as pants. Those work super well if you are trying to get comfy. Nothing more frustrating than having to constantly pull down your tight skirt and fix your blouse that doesn’t fit right not to even mention jeans that leave marks on your skin ’cause they’re too tight… That’s a total confident killer! 

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Accessories right

Something really simple can get you really far. Couple days back I was wearing those comfy leggings, a big old sweater, sneakers and a beanie. I felt comfy but there was nothing ”special” in it for me aka. I didn’t feel so confident in it. Then I put on my faux septum and some lipstick on and WOLA, that did the trick. I got compliments on how I’m looking so fine and nice! Sometimes the most simple change can elevate an outfit and make you instantly feel more confident in what you are wearing already.

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OOTD

Top: Noisy May

Skirt: Vero Moda

Cardigan: Broken Arrow (hand down)

Shoes: Vagabond

Necklace: Market in Nice

Jacket: Vero Moda

Lipcolor: Ben Nye – Really Red Lip Pencil

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Those were my couple tips on how to boost your confidence with clothes and accessories. I really hope you found this useful! I love reading and hearing others tips and tricks on this topic, so what do you do to feel more confident? It doesn’t necessarily have to do with style or the way you dress but hit me with comments down below!

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You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

 

Further reading: 

5+1 tips | How to feel beautiful

What is an ethical lifestyle?

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE

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MIAMI MARCH | mini lookbook

Hi guys!

Even though my Youtube videos are mostly in Finnish, these types of styling videos are fortunately not bind to any particular language!

The last time I was in Miami, I had to of course make my bf to film couple of my OOTDs and here is the result. I’m still using my iPhone to film these types of videos but I realize that this cannot go on forever ;D Slo-mo is always fun, just remember to watch this in HD !

Outfit 1

Jumpsuit : Urban Outfitters Vintage

Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell Lita

Faux septum: Blackheart

Sunnies: Ninja

Bandana: Second Hand

Outfit 2

Dress: Superdry

Long sleeve shirt: American Apparel

Shoes: Nike

Faux septum: Blackheart

Choker: Second Hand

AND of course, remember to subscribe 😉

You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

Questions to ask before purchasing a new item | STYLE

Now and again we need or want to purchase something new to our wardrobe. We want to update our style to certain season or maybe replace an old piece of clothing. But sometimes we just buy for the sake of buying. Then we most likely end up with a lot a cheap things in our wardrobe that we don’t use and as a result feel frustrated.

I believe that this culture of impulse buying is one of the main reasons for “vaatekriisi” = a Finnish word for clothing crisis / walking up to your wardrobe and have “nothing” to wear.

When you are in the store and thinking about buying something, instead of buying it right away you could ask these questions and determine if the item is worth purchasing.

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Does this fit me properly?

I just recently tried out my friend’s old top. It looked amazing on the hanger but when I put it on it was a disaster. Even though I loved the top it wasn’t the right size. So be honest to yourself if you see that something just doesn’t really fit you.

Does this go with majority of my wardrobe?

This one is a huge and important question. You don’t do anything with a piece of clothing that you cannot match to anything that you have in your wardrobe. In this situation you can ask some other questions like “is this my color/style?” Some pants that are amazing but require a pair of higher heels than you own, it’s not worth it. Because after buying those pants you need to purchase new shoes and then maybe you feel the desire to buy a new bag to match the shoes… The list can go on and on until you have the “perfect outfit” to match those one pants and nothing else in your closet.

Does this fit my overall lifestyle?

I’m gonna share a story of one item in my wardrobe…

My boyfriend got me a tennis dress for our first Xmas together in December 2015. In March 2017 (last time when I was in Miami) I wore the dress for the FIRST TIME. Here’s the thing: even if it fits me well, it’s my style and the dress has my “vibe”,  if it doesn’t fit my lifestyle: it’s bloody useless.

  1. I don’t play tennis.
  2. In Finland I cannot workout in a dress ’cause it’s so damn cold.

It doesn’t matter how much I treasure the dress (’cause I got it as a present from my love) I’m not going to wear it as often ’cause it has no use. I would have never bought this dress on my own ’cause I know it’s not fitting my lifestyle. But as a present–> okay, I’ll keep it.

You can also ask this kind of question if you aren’t sure what your lifestyle is all about: What does my day/week/month look like? Do you go to school or work 5 times a week? Do you workout a lot? How ’bout going out with your friends? You get the general idea. The math here is simple: the more you spend time doing something the more you can spend money on it and purchase a new items if necessary. I will cover this topic on another blogpost in more depth so follow my blog or facebook page to get the notification 😉

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Is this good quality and ethically made?

Even the best of us have felled into the trap of fast fashion and sales. Usually ended up buying something really cheap that wasn’t good quality. The goal is to have a wardrobe that lasts. If you have to buy new tops every month ’cause the quality sucks that doesn’t do you any favors. When buying a new winter coat or shoes we really think about the quality ’cause most of us want to wear that same piece for the whole season or two (and preferably even longer). What if you could center that same mentality when buying “ordinary” things like tops and cardigans. This will also cut down the amount of impulse purchases because you really look for the quality not the quantity.

Same goes for ethicality. I still do have clothes from fast fashion companies but because they are still in good shape I don’t see why I should toss them out right away. You can also read my post I wrote earlier about transitioning to more ethical wardrobe here. But next time you want to buy something: think about the journey of that piece of clothing. Who made it? With what salary? And how? Kristen Leo is one of my favorite ethical fashion Youtubers and I highly recommend her channel and her post that consist a list of many ethical clothing brands but remember to always do your own research.

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Is this worth the price?

Well sales and fast fashion are the issues here too. Check the price. Is it really cheap? Why is it? Is it really expensive? Why is that? Now you can look at the quality and see if it matches the price. Something like polyester isn’t really worth a lot but some brands still tend to make those items seemingly expensive and put the price tag accordingly. I remember buying a coat for a fair amount of money only later realizing that the material didn’t really match the price and so my coat was done in one season. But that’s the purpose–> so you would go again and buy a new one. Also you can ask that if this was twice as much would I still get it? “High” fashion brands sell T-shirts for a VERY expensive price, yes the quality may be better but would you really be prepared to buy just one T-shirt for 60€. Different thing if it was ethically made but still…

I was discussing this issue with my boyfriend. He really wanted to buy pair of jeans but they costed 90 dollars. They fitted him nicely and were really unique. Then the next day he was still thinking about those pants and asking me if he should buy them or not. I asked him how much he intended to wear those jeans. He has 3-4 jeans but not in that color he was craving. So after a quick calculation he was going to wear those jeans 100+ days from a whole year. Then I asked him to divide the cost so 90 dollars for those 100 days. Quickly those jeans didn’t seem so expensive if he could spare one dollar each time his was going to wear those jeans.

The problem here is that we really don’t know how much we are going to wear a certain item before we get it into our wardrobe but doing a quick calculation like this could help in deciding whether or not something is worth buying.

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Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell | Jumpsuit: Urban Outfitters Vintage | Jewelry: Thrifted&BlackHeart

Do I really love it?

Some items may be our color, good quality with fair price and fitting nicely. BUT if the reaction you still feel is “naah” instead of “OMG THIS *fill in the blank* IS SO ME” I would still consider leaving that for someone else who feels like that about that certain item. Just imagine that you would have a wardrobe full of clothes that you absolutely love? Wouldn’t that be the ideal? But that won’t happen if you keep filling your closet with things that really don’t get you excited.

Bonus tip:

If all else fails try to imagine 3-5 outfits you would style the piece in. Accessories are a bit easier but for example green printed leggings are another story.

 

Hope you liked this post and don’t forget to follow my blog here at WordPress 🙂

You are awesome!

Take Care<3

*Meeri

 

Happy New Year! | VIDEO

Hi guys and happy New Year!

Here’s my quick review of my year 2016. A lot of things happened and I’m so excited for upcoming year 2017. I hope it’s filled with new experiences, theater and lots of love.

What do you wish from 2017?

 

Remember to subscribe here 😉 

You are awesome! 

Thanks for staying with me this year. 

Take Care<3 

MIAMI LOOKBOOK | youtube

Hi guys!

It’s been awhile but I’m back with another video. Footage captured only using iPhone! I share couple of my most worn styles I wore in my visit in Miami.

If you enjoyed I would love to hear your comments and subscribe to show me your love<3

 

OUTFIT #1

Running pants: Intersport

Star Wars shirt: Topshop

Shoes: Nike

Sunnies: Ninja

Cap: Nike

Necklace: Second Hand

OUTFIT #2

Shorts: Second Hand

Crop Top: Topshop

Bomber: Monki

Fake Septum: Black Heart

Sunnies: Ninja

Shoes: Nike

OUTFIT #3

Trousers: Vero Moda

Shirt: American Apparel

Shoes: Nike

Necklace: Second Hand

Fake Septum: Black Heart

OUTFIT #4

Trousers: Vero Moda

Top: Vero Moda

Knitting: Noisy May

Necklace: Efva Attling

Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell Lita

Thanks for reading and watching! 

You are awesome!

*Meeri