Even though my Youtube videos are mostly in Finnish, these types of styling videos are fortunately not bind to any particular language!
The last time I was in Miami, I had to of course make my bf to film couple of my OOTDs and here is the result. I’m still using my iPhone to film these types of videos but I realize that this cannot go on forever ;D Slo-mo is always fun, just remember to watch this in HD !
Now and again we need or want to purchase something new to our wardrobe. We want to update our style to certain season or maybe replace an old piece of clothing. But sometimes we just buy for the sake of buying. Then we most likely end up with a lot a cheap things in our wardrobe that we don’t use and as a result feel frustrated.
I believe that this culture of impulse buying is one of the main reasons for “vaatekriisi” = a Finnish word for clothing crisis / walking up to your wardrobe and have “nothing” to wear.
When you are in the store and thinking about buying something, instead of buying it right away you could ask these questions and determine if the item is worth purchasing.
Does this fit me properly?
I just recently tried out my friend’s old top. It looked amazing on the hanger but when I put it on it was a disaster. Even though I loved the top it wasn’t the right size. So be honest to yourself if you see that something just doesn’t really fit you.
Does this go with majority of my wardrobe?
This one is a huge and important question. You don’t do anything with a piece of clothing that you cannot match to anything that you have in your wardrobe. In this situation you can ask some other questions like “is this my color/style?” Some pants that are amazing but require a pair of higher heels than you own, it’s not worth it. Because after buying those pants you need to purchase new shoes and then maybe you feel the desire to buy a new bag to match the shoes… The list can go on and on until you have the “perfect outfit” to match those one pants and nothing else in your closet.
Does this fit my overall lifestyle?
I’m gonna share a story of one item in my wardrobe…
My boyfriend got me a tennis dress for our first Xmas together in December 2015. In March 2017 (last time when I was in Miami) I wore the dress for the FIRST TIME. Here’s the thing: even if it fits me well, it’s my style and the dress has my “vibe”, if it doesn’t fit my lifestyle: it’s bloody useless.
I don’t play tennis.
In Finland I cannot workout in a dress ’cause it’s so damn cold.
It doesn’t matter how much I treasure the dress (’cause I got it as a present from my love) I’m not going to wear it as often ’cause it has no use. I would have never bought this dress on my own ’cause I know it’s not fitting my lifestyle. But as a present–> okay, I’ll keep it.
You can also ask this kind of question if you aren’t sure what your lifestyle is all about: What does my day/week/month look like? Do you go to school or work 5 times a week? Do you workout a lot? How ’bout going out with your friends? You get the general idea. The math here is simple: the more you spend time doing something the more you can spend money on it and purchase a new items if necessary. I will cover this topic on another blogpost in more depth so follow my blog or facebook page to get the notification 😉
Is this good quality and ethically made?
Even the best of us have felled into the trap of fast fashion and sales. Usually ended up buying something really cheap that wasn’t good quality. The goal is to have a wardrobe that lasts. If you have to buy new tops every month ’cause the quality sucks that doesn’t do you any favors. When buying a new winter coat or shoes we really think about the quality ’cause most of us want to wear that same piece for the whole season or two (and preferably even longer). What if you could center that same mentality when buying “ordinary” things like tops and cardigans. This will also cut down the amount of impulse purchases because you really look for the quality not the quantity.
Same goes for ethicality. I still do have clothes from fast fashion companies but because they are still in good shape I don’t see why I should toss them out right away. You can also read my post I wrote earlier about transitioning to more ethical wardrobe here. But next time you want to buy something: think about the journey of that piece of clothing. Who made it? With what salary? And how? Kristen Leo is one of my favorite ethical fashion Youtubers and I highly recommend her channel and her post that consist a list of many ethical clothing brands but remember to always do your own research.
Is this worth the price?
Well sales and fast fashion are the issues here too. Check the price. Is it really cheap? Why is it? Is it really expensive? Why is that? Now you can look at the quality and see if it matches the price. Something like polyester isn’t really worth a lot but some brands still tend to make those items seemingly expensive and put the price tag accordingly. I remember buying a coat for a fair amount of money only later realizing that the material didn’t really match the price and so my coat was done in one season. But that’s the purpose–> so you would go again and buy a new one. Also you can ask that if this was twice as much would I still get it? “High” fashion brands sell T-shirts for a VERY expensive price, yes the quality may be better but would you really be prepared to buy just one T-shirt for 60€. Different thing if it was ethically made but still…
I was discussing this issue with my boyfriend. He really wanted to buy pair of jeans but they costed 90 dollars. They fitted him nicely and were really unique. Then the next day he was still thinking about those pants and asking me if he should buy them or not. I asked him how much he intended to wear those jeans. He has 3-4 jeans but not in that color he was craving. So after a quick calculation he was going to wear those jeans 100+ days from a whole year. Then I asked him to divide the cost so 90 dollars for those 100 days. Quickly those jeans didn’t seem so expensive if he could spare one dollar each time his was going to wear those jeans.
The problem here is that we really don’t know how much we are going to wear a certain item before we get it into our wardrobe but doing a quick calculation like this could help in deciding whether or not something is worth buying.
Do I really love it?
Some items may be our color, good quality with fair price and fitting nicely. BUT if the reaction you still feel is “naah” instead of “OMG THIS *fill in the blank* IS SO ME” I would still consider leaving that for someone else who feels like that about that certain item. Just imagine that you would have a wardrobe full of clothes that you absolutely love? Wouldn’t that be the ideal? But that won’t happen if you keep filling your closet with things that really don’t get you excited.
If all else fails try to imagine 3-5 outfits you would style the piece in. Accessories are a bit easier but for example green printed leggings are another story.
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HONEST ALERT: I don’t feel beautiful ALL the time. Who does? I bet Lady Gaga has those days too when she don’t feel like her A game…
Guess it’s kind of old to say “we all sometimes feel the pressure to look a certain way or are not happy the way we are feeling about our appearance because of the media etc.” But I’m still writing it down here ’cause it’s still the unfortunate reality for many of us. We maybe want to please others or just ourselves. I’ve noticed that when it comes to confidence and feeling beautiful I’m really my own worst enemy.
Being beautiful is most of all a feeling.
Having confidence and feeling beautiful really go hand-in-hand. This is why my list contains a lot of handy tips to also build up your confidence. Even though you may have a great self-esteem it’s really good to remind yourself once in a while about how important these little things are. Also bear in mind that these are just my own tips for myself and all of these may not work for you but I’m sharing these ’cause it just might help you today.
Before getting to my tips on how I feel beautiful I’d like to share the most basic things that I personally need before any of my other tips would even begin to work!
Getting enough sleep
Drinking lots of water
Now on to the tips:
1. Smile and give yourself compliments
It’s so weird how easy it is to give someone else a compliment but not being able to say the same thing to yourself. This tip can work however you want it to and you can modify it to your liking. You can use a mirror or just go to a quiet place where you are not being disturbed. Then just smile. It’s really that simple. Smile to yourself and either out loud or in your mind give yourself compliments or if it seems hard to find multiple things just start with one. It can be anything from “My outfit is really on point today” to just simply “I’m beautiful”. Say anything that needs the most attention.
2. Be without makeup
The power of makeup is real. It has the power to change our appearance, enhance our features or even create a piece of art. It also has the power of making you feel less beautiful when you are not wearing it. If this is the case then I suggest that you stop wearing makeup for awhile. Sometimes after a period of wearing a lot of makeup I wash my face and don’t feel as beautiful as the second before I washed my face. ‘Cause I got used to seeing my face full glam on and when I washed my face it didn’t look “normal” and so I felt less beautiful. But when I tried to be without makeup for a week or so I got used to seeing myself without makeup and therefore the “normal” got back to where it should be.
3. Dress up
Same as makeup, clothing has a significant impact on how we feel about ourselves and how others perceive us. Let’s say I’ve worn baggy pants and some old sweatshirt for days in a row ( based on true events ) I’m gonna feel like the clothes I’m wearing: kinda worn out and baggy. Don’t get me wrong I love comfortable clothing but if I want to boost my confidence and feel like the best version of me I’m not going to wear that combination for long period of time. Putting on a sharp blazer or getting my favorite dress on is kind of telling myself that I’m worthy of looking my best at all times.
I think there is no such thing as overdressing.
This is probably my favorite tip! I love to dance and even though I don’t go to classes anymore like I used to I still dance almost everyday. This is almost like the basic exercise stuff I shared in the beginning of this post but it’s still something extra. This takes me about 5-30 minutes or as long as I like! I put on some music that makes me feel happy or sexy and then I just jam. When those famous endorphins start to hit my brain and I brake a sweat I’ll feel totally different about myself than before I started. If you haven’t tried this out I highly recommend.
5. Try something different
Seriously. Please. Just do it. It’s no surprise that when I’ve been wearing the same clothes and done my makeup with the same routine over and over again, I’m gonna feel bored. But when I try something different it changes everything. It’s exciting and it makes me look at myself in a different perspective. And if the different didn’t work I can always go back. I did this all the time in secondary school! I remember someone really came up to me and said “Meeri could you just please make up your mind about your style?” ‘Cause I was experimenting with my clothing and where I felt the most beautiful in. Each day was different so obviously the same things and style didn’t work everyday.
I think we tend to feel more beautiful when there is something new and exciting on us. This can apply to anything you want. Break up the routines and try something new. Like a fresh haircut or a piece of jewelry that you haven’t tried ( like I bought fake septum ). The options are infinite.